(Another way to say this is 'Our pleasure is not God's number one priority!
' :) God wants us to be happy, but "happy" is subject to so many variances in circumstances that it is a very poor standard with which to judge life.
Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage were not conducted at all.
Courtship, as discussed in more detail subsequently, seeks to emulate the Godly models described in the Bible that were conducted by God's people up until the invention of dating.
If you feel that the Bible is not the standard for your relationships, then you might find some interesting information here, but you may remain unconvinced.
If you're still not sure about this whole Christianity thing, now might be a good time to check out my essays on Christianity.
As Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, "Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction." So to have a successful marriage, the most important thing is to ensure that you follow His principles that He laid down when He designed marriage.
The irony is, when we focus on His principles instead of our pleasure, we end up having a very satifying and pleasant marriage!
I have adopted the view that the Bible holds the truth for life today.Genesis says that God created Eve as a helpmeet -- to Adam perform his duty, working the garden and taking dominion over the earth.