How to go from friends with benefits to dating
My stance is It's a limiting belief to think that relationship can only happen a certain way.There is no one form of relationship that is superior to the others.The “friends with benefits” (or FWB) relationship is a hot-button issue for many women, so understandably most women hold a preconceived notion of what it is and speak against it.Not every woman wants a relationship and not every woman wants a relationship with the guy(s) she sleeps or has slept with, just like not every guy does! What usually follows are the arguments perpetuated by the "Oxytocin Myth" that women will willy-nilly fall in love or bond with every guy they have sex with because of Oxytocin, the "cuddle" hormone released by men and women during sex and orgasm and physical closeness such as cuddling, kissing and hugging. To some, this arrangement is a perfect way to prepare themselves for a real relationship when they are ready.
I don't recommend talking to him about wanting to be serious if he hasn't initiated the conversation himself because the likelihood is he hasn't changed his mind about not wanting a relationship. If he hasn't moved the relationship forward, it's because nothing has changed since your agreement. a party of the "coupledom" who is more invested and more into the other.It's all about what feels right or not right at any given moment.If you feel you are falling fast for your FWB and want more, here are a few guidelines to follow:1. If this arrangement doesn't serve you anymore — the costs really exceed the benefits — you know where the door is, right?If you are trying to turn your friends-with-benefits situation into something more you really ought to look at where you fall in this dynamic.
Is he flexting (flirt-texting) all day or just hitting you up post PM?Getting more focused on will get him to notice and do something about it if he's so inclined.3. The more you are ridden with one-down anxiety, the more you feel vulnerable, helpless, hopeless and desperate.